You are the trophy and he is just another athlete in the race.

Many of my friends are in serious relationships yet many are very much single. Some are so single that they've never had boy friends. Yes, I too find it very intriguing. And a small fraction of my friends have a ring on their finger, while some have already bitten the bullet. I know many single girls who actually pray for a boy friend and it really does make me laugh. Is a man some sort of accessory or necessity? Or a life support machine? I'm not sure these days. When I was single, I always got the "Do you have a boyfriend". When I say no, it's followed by a "Why not"? Now, I know that some lame ass men use this line to lure you into a conversation convincing you that they are God's gift to the female species. BUT when a lady says WHY? It really makes my blood boil. Is a boy friend like a degree or a bra? 

Why are women so needy? Why do girls hate being single, so bad? They go to all lengths to meet men, and play all sorts of games and do all sorts of ridiculous things in attempt to bag a man. I need to share some of the most pathetic things I've come across. Emma and I went out to a bar. Some male figures were misbehaving and acting extremely improper. She spent the whole morning after the outing, insulting this particular individual-Joe. He happened to be 1. One of the guys misbehaving, 2. A friend of mine. A few hours later, Emma heads back home and I log into Facebook and on my news feed, I see- Emma and Joe are now friends. It's very clear to me that she added him. A few weeks on, she's sending me messages about how they have been seeing each other but it isn't official. Bear in mind that Joe has a girl friend and he's interested in two of my other friends. I give her the bad news but I later find out she's still ON IT like a bonnet!! How desperate can you get? You see someone, and then add them on Facebook and you start sending him messages? You call yourself a woman? If a man did this, I wouldn't be surprised but I would not tolerate or even entertain such nonsense from a man, how much more you a lady? No wonder the guy could not commit to you!

Another thing that makes my skin crawl is when single girls are persistently asking you to hook them up with someone. Not, just you but the whole of their Facebook, your Facebook, your grand mother's twitter knows that she is desperately looking for a man. Why? What sort of foolishness and desperateness is that? Do you think a man will sought after you if he knows the amount of time and effort you are spending on trying to get a man? It is such an unattractive quality.

Why do women behave like this? Do you need a man to complete you? Of course not! One thing, I have slowly but eventually learned in this life is that WOMEN are the prize. Back in my younger days, my single friends and I would discuss tactics to find a boy friend. It's sounds so sad and silly when I think back but we always wanted to possess a man. It was like a chase, and when we got him, we were happy! Satisfied and felt accomplished!! WHY? Ladies, it is the other way round. It should be. That guy you like is just another athlete in the race. And guess what? The trophy is YOU darling!! So, do not go about chasing and scrambling all corners of the earth for a man. YOU are the trophy, you are the prize, the diamond in the rough. And any man out there, is just another athlete in the race that should do his best to win the race. Now, your duty as the trophy is to sit there, look good, carry yourself with so much confidence and poise, and reflect that outer beauty on the inside. Show that gold is not just on the exterior, it goes right through you. You are smart, you are extremely talented, you are funny, and you have the degree to prove your intelligence. Obviously, nobody is going to race for a trophy that they can't see. So, while you shouldn't go chasing after men, do not hide yourself in your wardrobe. We need to see this personality and wittiness you possess. Socialize more, go out with the girls more often. Meet new people at work, Uni, at a bar, at Church, where ever you go, keep a smile on your face, look approachable, presentable and hold a good conversation at all times. Baby girl, those men will be reeling in, in no time. 

Remember, you are the Trophy and he is just another athlete in the race.

Ciao 

xxx